“There were no warnings; he just told me yesterday that he wants a divorce.”
I hear this same plea from women who call me and are shocked and off balance when their spouse hits them with this news.
Many of us are so busy with life, career, children, family, maintaining our health, appearance, and some social life, that we don’t have a lot of time to nurture our relationship with our partner. (Just one more thing to take care of!) But, there are warnings before your partner checks out.
Men who feel unneeded, unappreciated, or feel like they can’t please their partner will give up. Some of the signs are: they come home later, make excuses for their time away, show less interest in family activities, and gradually initiate sex less often. They may also be more irritable and critical.
To prevent this gradual decay, I recommend a technique that is useful with children: Give your spouse 10 minutes of undivided, uninterrupted, nonjudgmental time every day. Listen and say at least one positive thing that you love about him. You might have to dig, but there is always something. Make sure it’s an honest, truthful statement. Make eye contact and don’t expect anything from the encounter. The rewards will come later.
What gives us purpose?
It is different for everyone and it changes throughout our lifetime. When we are young, we don’t think about it; we just live it. Most of us loved playing outside, exploring, being in nature, biking, playing with friends, maybe drawing, dancing, or singing. If your love (passion) was encouraged and role modeled by your family, then you probably grew up trusting your passion (what you love to do, where you love to be, and who you love to be around).
Unfortunately, such support is a gift that many of us are not given. Rather, we are encouraged to be practical, responsible, and logical instead of following our dreams. We can be responsible and follow our dreams. This requires balance. Balance is the key to a good life. Life Purpose Coaching helps you to retrace your steps back to your loves; they are there inside each of us, ready to be awakened.
Learn more about Life Purpose Coaching here.
While at the beach this week, I read the book Younger You, by Dr. Braverman, M.D., and agree with him that by changing your lifestyle with life coaching: you are choosing longevity while feeling younger.
Some of the things that cause us to age are: poor working conditions, alcoholism, addictions, depression, lack of sleep, lack of social activities, nicotine, poor diet, retirement, and sedentary lifestyle — all of which are within our control.
Life Coaching helps you to improve these areas so that your life is healthier and happier. Call or email me for an assessment.
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