There is a lot of controversy about the physical and psychological aspects of fibromyalgia.
My clients come to me with real pain, and I treat them with a combination of EMDR therapy and body work, which is done simultaneously with a massage therapist. The mind and body are treated as one.
During the healing protocol, we process the physical and emotional pain with slow bilateral stimulation to facilitate “parasympathetic processing.” The bilateral movement is a soft beeping sound produced through a headset that the patient wears. The bilateral stimulation (beeping) can help to prevent the hyper-activated abreactions and dissociative numbness and can also make processing possible.
Many times, as we begin to work deeply, clients will deny their feelings that are related to the pain. There is a resistance in the body. They are used to the pain and its presence. When they are encouraged to continue, they describe the visual experience, feelings emerge, and the massage therapist assists the body memories to release by relaxing the ends of the muscles that are holding the tension.
Since the body sensations hold vulnerability and contact with the dissociative process, we move slowly and start with as much preparation time as needed, so that a safe place is established. During our first sessions, we work slowly. I have found that many chronic pain sufferers aren’t always ready to give up their pain, even though they think they are.
One female patient recently told me that she didn’t know who she would be without her pain while others have secondary issues underlying the pain, or they just want the pain to go away and don’t want to explore the pain around it. Some of my clients tell me that they want to let go, but there is resistance.
We start with the most recent memories and I suggest that they, “paint a picture of the memory with every sensory detail.” We continue with slow bilateral stimulation to facilitate “parasympathetic processing.” Visualization continues and at times scary, angry painful memories emerge. These can appear as parts that have been unconsciously functioning to protect but in protecting they hold the pain and memory.
Allowing communication and compromise for a less painful way of protecting is offered and is processed with EMDR. The emotions and pain are released emotionally and further through the release of their body muscles. EMDR and body work are done simultaneously. I help my clients to identify their current strengths, which helps them to stay in the present and allow the release of old protective mechanisms that are no longer helpful and are, in fact, causing pain. Any unfinished emotions are reviewed and released or contained until the next session.
Our beliefs can hold conflict and unconscious stress in our bodies. I have used EMDR with Therapeutic Massage on clients with fibromyalgia pain and find it to be more helpful than EMDR or body work alone. When the muscle is constricted, bilateral stimulation has a positive effect of bypassing the resistance. It also seems to deepen the verbal work by releasing body resistance and memories during our EMDR and talk sessions in the office. I welcome your questions and comments.
An excerpt from Stephen Levine’s A Gradual Awakening. This Chapter is called The Wanting Mind.
…seeing the scope of my wantings showed me how deeply and subtly dissatisfaction created my personal world, and that seeing freed me from much grasping, from thinking that all my wants had to be satisfied, that i had to compulsively respond to everything that arose in my mind. I saw that things can be a certain way without needing to be acted on or judged or even pushed aside. They can simply be observed.
Gradually, seeing the unsatisfactory nature of much of the content of mind was opening a path of freedom. When we see that what we’re grasping is on fire, we stop reaching for it. Slowly, the mind is reconditioned to see what it is doing.
And as we discover there are many ways that desires cause dissatisfaction. There are for instance, things we only get once in a while, or which don’t stay for long. There are also things we get and after we get them we don’t want -which is really disconcerting.
…nothing can be permanently satisfy us because not only does the thing we want change, but our wants change too. Everything is changing all of the time. Can we thing of any pain in our life that was not caused by change? But when we deeply experience this flux we don’t recoil in fear of what might be coming but rather begin to open to how things are. We don’t get lost in fatalistic imaginings or ‘nothing matters’ nihilism, but instead recognize that everything matters equally.
…And we watch without judging ourselves for wanting. We don’t impatiently want to be rid of wanting. We simply observe it. Each moment of non-wanting is a moment of freedom. Mindfulness allows that non-wanting. Mindfulness allows addictive thinking and behaviors to change.
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